The Secret to Giving Less F*cks in 2025

What’s up, sober owners? Mike III here, we’ve finally reached February. Did you own the month of January or did the month own you? Maybe a bit of both? Good news, there’s still 11 more months to make this year your best year ever.

Want one surefire way to have a better year? Give less fucks. I’ll explain…

Last week, I mentioned that I was listening to The Let Them Theory by Mel Robbins. Released just last month, it has been #1 on Amazon Charts ever since. Totally worth the read/listen.

In this issue, I’ll explain the basic concepts behind The Let Them Theory and how we can apply them to our sober lifestyles for giving less fucks about what the outside world thinks and more about our own overall peace and confidence.

Now let’s get to it and, as always, thank you all for your support! 🙏

If you’re anything like me, sobriety has brought a sense of peace to your life that you used to crave. And you’re probably learning how to protect it at any cost. Because, if like me, anything that upsets your sense of peace can become a trigger — and you can go from serenity prayer to crime scene cleanup in three seconds flat.

As men, we don’t usually like to admit that other people affect how we feel and act. However, we’re still human beings and things outside of our control can get to us. How often do you catch yourself stewing over something someone said to you? Or, the way they did something? Maybe, it’s what they didn’t do?

The solution is to just stop caring what other people think and do, right?

Well, that’s fine but we don’t come with a switch that magically stops us from caring. It’s human nature to desire to be liked and accepted. So how do we actually get to not letting it affect us?

“Let Them.”

The first step of the two-part process is to simply say to yourself, “Let them.” Let them think, say, and feel however they’re going to because that’s not your responsibility. Your life is your responsibility. You have to focus on what you can control.

Give people the freedom to think whatever they want. Let them judge, let them have negative thoughts, let them not be okay with it. The way they process their feelings is not your responsibility.

“Let Me.”

The second and equally important step is to then say to yourself, “Let me.” Let me remind myself to focus on what I can control… which is how I process the situation and how I react to it. Let me take responsibility for how I’m going to respond to this.

Give yourself the freedom to think, say, and feel what makes you proud. Because when you’re proud of yourself you’re not going to care what other people think.

It may sound simplistic, but it’s actually a powerful mindset.

“Let them” is more powerful than “Let it go” because it comes from a position of self-control. You’re giving them permission in your mind to let them be an idiot and do what they do. You’re not rendering yourself helpless and telling yourself there’s nothing you can do about it.

Meanwhile, you’re making an empowering decision to not let it derail your mood.

“Let me” brings you back to what you can control. You’re choosing to think, act, and feel how you choose to without allowing someone else’s thoughts, actions, or feelings to kill your vibe.

Like any change in behavior or mindset, it takes conscious effort and practice in the beginning but will eventually become automatic thinking. Just don’t forget, it’s a two-step process:

“Let them do them and let me do me.”

🔊 Recovery and Sobriety: The Difference Between Them

I recently returned to the Through the Glass Recovery podcast where we chatted about the difference between sobriety and recovery.

What I like about this podcast is its roundtable format where hosts Steve and Julie invite three guests to share their experiences, so you get multiple perspectives on the topic.

In this episode:

• “Sober is a state of mind”

• How to find your why

• Using therapy, journaling, internet support systems to aid in self-discovery

• Letting go of the identity of “drinker”

• The unseen dangers of the functioning alcoholic

• Post Traumatic Stress vs. Post Traumatic Growth

• How a 30-day commitment could be your answer

📰 Sober Lifestyle Resources

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